How to never run out of things to say
One of the biggest obstacles you may face when trying to make new friends or just meet new people in general is the fear of not having anything to say while we have been speaking since we were very young the act of driving forward a conversation still makes many people nervous. Luckily today. We will discuss how you can employ the conversational tactics of filtering, threading and most importantly pratfall effect into your dialogue Arsenal.
the first thing you must understand about conversations is that moments of silence and awkwardness will occur. From time to time but grasping when they happen can reduce these uncomfortable pauses in most cases when you feel like you’ve run out of things to say to a stranger you haven’t actually ran out of ideas, but simply you cannot find any other appropriate topics to discuss with this new acquaintance.
This is because we use our internal filter to gauge the appropriateness of certain conversational topics based on who were talking to this is why you rarely find yourself without words When amongst friends but knowing what to say when for example you are at a networking event can be challenging the other issue stems from wanting to come off as being cool intelligent or sophisticated which again can leave you trapped without much to say. So, how do we fix this filtering issue? Well, actually it’s quite simple. It just requires deliberate practice removing. The filter test the boundaries of what you can say and can say with strangers while ignoring any inclinations you may have Try and portray yourself in a certain light doing so will allow you to come across as being more genuine, which is a trait valued by many the second tactic you can use to ease. The flow conversation is threading threading is the branching of conversation in different directions. For example, your counterpart could say are worked at a consulting firm in Mumbai for six months last year at this point. You have many options. You can leave the conversation using what they’ve just said to talk about Consulting. Business Mumbai Etc. Essentially you are talking about what is said and then using it as a starting point for your next bit of dialogue. The beauty of this method is that you can literally rely on a strategy to carry you through hours of conversation eliminating any fear you may have that the discussion will run dry at this point of the article by using the to tactics mentioned you will be able to have effortless conversations with little to no awkward pauses. However, I want to provide you With one more powerful
psychological tip
to ensure your conversational success. If you desire to come across as more likeable and easy to talk to when meeting new acquaintances, you should be using the pratfall effect to your advantage this effect states that you’re like ability increases if you show weakness through making mistakes or being imperfect when people see that you’re not perfect you appear more human and relatable whereas someone who is always on point and never wrong. Can come off as threatening therefore in being yourself and not overly trying to impress others. You will actually make yourself more likeable, which is the key driver in having more enjoyable conversations. What I want you to take out of this article is that running out of things to say in your conversations should not deter you from trying to meet new people. A lot of the enjoyment we have in life comes from our relationships, but starting these relationships requires conversation therefore by employing the three tactics. Priviously mentioned you will be sure to have enriched and conversations going forward.