Every relationship starts off fresh and fun, but after a while, both partners need to work on their habits and emotions to build trust. It can be very tiring at times, but there is more than one way to sprinkle some positive vibes even in the toughest of times.
1. Compliments
Sometimes, a few words of support can help your partner deal with something that’s been on their mind for days. Kind words will make them feel loved and appreciated. If they are in a bad mood, telling them that their butt is beautiful will surely cheer them up. In short, focus on the positives and don’t worry about the little things. Even if you keep using the same compliment, it’s important to know that it will work.
2. Let go of your anger
Anger is a relationship killer. It makes you selfish and prevents you from seeing the good around you. If you’re angry with your partner, give yourself some time to calm down, take a step back, and discuss what’s going on.
3. Speak your mind
You need to dive in and share what’s really going on in your hearts and minds. If your partner doesn’t know how you feel, you need to start the conversation, and remember the previous step – let go of your anger first. This is one of the hardest tricks to master, but you’ll be much happier when you speak the truth.
4. Remember the good old days
Even though nothing is better in your current situation, if you want to make your partner more excited, all you have to do is go back in time and remember the greener grass. Put on those rose-tinted glasses and take a trip down memory lane.
5. Self-preservation
Even if you are madly in love and think you would do anything for your partner, it is important to think about your needs as well, especially when we are talking about one’s mental health. Take some time to focus on what you want and need and you’ll see results in no time. It’s a long-term investment, but well worth the effort.
6. Try to be realistic
Seeing happy couples in movies and TV and thinking, “Why can’t we be like them?” When you think that, you open Pandora’s box. There are no perfect couples. They simply don’t exist in real life. So every time you nag your partner that they are doing something wrong, remember that every relationship is flawed. Keeping it real with you and your partner and managing your expectations will go a long way in your relationship.
7. Minimize criticism
Spending time with someone can lead to some unintended consequences, and you start to notice how annoying they are. Those little idiosyncrasies can drive you crazy, but it’s important to remember all the things you love about your partner. It’s not uncommon to get annoyed by silly quirks, but if they bother you, it’s best to speak up. Think you’re too big? You may still have little things that drive your partner crazy. Welcome to the adult relationship. Harsh criticism can make things worse for both of you, so if you feel like you’re about to go down on something petty, try to focus on the positive side.
