When it comes to dating, there are certain moments that make anyone sweaty and nervous. Some of these big moments might be a first date or meeting her friends for the first time, but nothing will shake your determination when you meet her parents for the first time.
It’s a scary situation, so let’s take a look at some dos and don’ts—just in case.
Unless they say otherwise, you’re talking to “Mr.” and “Mrs.” I am fully aware that they have first names, but you are still not on a first name basis. It happens when it’s supposed to happen.
Bring a gift
It doesn’t have to be big, but a nice bottle of wine for dinner can break the ice in more ways than one. Remember that red wine is only for red meats. Everything else goes with a nice dry white. Thank me later.
Don’t look at your phone
Yes, we know you’d rather be somewhere else, but stop making it so obvious. Be in the moment and at least look like you want to know everything about these people. Your internet personality may go unnoticed for a few hours.
You only get one shot at a first impression, so at least dress for the occasion. You don’t need to come fully dressed, but ironing a shirt never killed anyone. At least not if you do it carefully. Jeans are fine as long as they don’t have holes or are heavily washed.
Work can put you through hell, and there’s no reason to bring that up in your first conversation with your future mother-in-law. You’re a great person who can make everything better and give their daughter the stability she needs, remember?
Show your girl some love
And by that I don’t mean get out of bed, but look at her lovingly, make frequent eye contact, laugh at her jokes, gently touch her, … show these people that you really love their daughter.
Every family has certain characteristics that you might not know as an outsider. Ask your girlfriend for some pointers on which topics to avoid and which topics to work hard on. Maybe her dad likes politics, but not the part of politics where foreigners can vote. Better be aware of that minefield before you enter the room.